5 Tips To Succeed At Online Dating
I truly believe online dating is the best thing the internet has ever offered me. And when you’re lazy like me, having access to an app that brings hot humans straight to your door is like heaven. But, as a user of online dating for over 3 years now, I can tell you first-hand that it can sometimes be a huge drag.
I often come across profiles that I believe are making so many easily-fixable mistakes. If you're not getting many matches or dates, or you've just been unsuccessful overall when it comes to online dating, then this article is for you.
To be a user that actually experiences some action, there are a few things you should keep in mind. There are certain ways one should navigate online dating in order to be successful, and I’m here to tell you what they are.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
First things first, know what you’re looking for on the app/site. And if you aren’t quite sure what you want, then you must be open-minded.
When you don’t know what you want, you leave room for confusion and formation of expectations. It is better to have a clear vision for why you are using the app/site to avoid getting into situations that don’t align with what you truly want. Determine what it is you’re looking for then be transparent about it. That way, when people ask you what you're looking for, you already have a response that won't be easily skewed or influenced by the other person's response.
Whatever you do, just don’t play games. It’s childish.
PICK GOOD PHOTOS
Are all of your pictures group pictures? Are your pictures blurry or displaying you at a distance? Do you simply just not have enough photos for a viewer to get a firm understanding of what you look like? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you’re probably in the wrong.
Your pictures matter more than you know. It sounds superficial as f*ck, I know, but trust me when I tell you it’s super important to put your best self first. Try uploading a variety of pictures (ex. 1 headshot, 2 body shots, 1 group photo, and 1 picture of you somewhere interesting or you doing something you love).
UTILIZE THE BIO
While swiping through a dating app, if I see you don’t have a bio, I’m automatically swiping left. Why? Because it shows me you’re either lazy or lack creativity. Utilize the bio! People often need reasons besides your face to swipe right. And honestly, if someone doesn’t find you that attractive, they might swipe right anyways if your bio is super fascinating!
- Copying and pasting a pre-existing bio you found on the internet. It’s obvious.
- Using an aggressive, offensive, or overly picky tone. It’s a huge turnoff.
- Simply saying who you are and what you do. Instead, share what makes you different.
SEND AN APPEALING FIRST MESSAGE
Personally, I have completely stopped responding to any and all messages that just say “Hey”, “What’s Up?”, “How are you?”, etc. Today’s average attention span for humans is 8 seconds. Small talk is a waste of my time.
If you want to capture someone’s attention, ask them an interesting question. Use something mentioned in their bio to start conversation. Compliment their smile. Invite them to an event. But please, for god’s sake, don’t say “Hey.”
DON’T TAKE IT TOO SERIOUSLY
Lastly, don’t take it too seriously. If someone stops answering you, don’t take it personally. If someone doesn’t respond right away, don’t double message them. Remember, it’s just dating. Sometimes people get busy.
Explore the app/site, put yourself out there, be yourself, have fun, but don’t rely on online dating as your source of connection with others.
Meeting people IRL first is way better anyways ;)